Transform Your Relationship with Money in 10 Simple Steps
Here’s a cheat sheet to help you transform your relationship with money in 10 simple steps.
1. Celebrate your Successes
We tend to be so hard on ourselves, always looking for the half empty part of the cup and not the half-full part!
Even if you think that the last year has been a total loss when it comes to money, I bet you’ll find some bright sparks if you look closely.
I like to review the year month-by-month and write down what worked and what didn’t. Our insurance review and overhaul that we completed in July was a huge accomplishment. We’re not in debt and we continued adding to our investments. Our net worth is increasing, so that goes on the list too.
Take 15 minutes and write down what’s working for you with your money right now.
Focus on your successes – even the small ones.
Maybe you renegotiated your cell phone or internet package. That’s a great step in the right direction. Perhaps you committed to tracking your spending and cutting your expenses – even if you managed for only two out of twelve months, celebrate the success that you did have. There must have been times you said no and didn’t splurge or buy something you really wanted. Write those things down!
Even if you didn’t do it perfectly, it counts! Celebrate what worked.
And then figure out what derailed your plans. Use your awareness to set yourself up for success this year.
If you’ve been overly stressed, anxious, embarrassed or scared to work on your relationship with money, find a mentor who can help you move beyond the negative emotions and help you get unstuck.
2. To Forgive is Divine
At this time of the Jewish year, we sincerely forgive everybody who bothered us, let us down and hurt us. Likewise, we reach out and apologize to others for the insensitive things we said and did. Make sure to forgive the most important person of all – YOU! Especially when it comes to money.
We weren’t born knowing how to do this money stuff. So please cut yourself some slack and forgive. Even if you’re in debt, or have nothing in a savings account or haven’t started your retirement plan yet. It’s time to wipe the slate clean and to give yourself permission to start again! I forgive you!
Oust the clutter and make space for transformation.
Let go of limiting beliefs and self-defeating messages that muck up your money mindset and stop you from changing your relationship with money. Here’s some of the negative self-talk I hear from people:
- I’m not good with numbers like you are
- Money is a man’s world
- I always make dumb money decisions
- We’ll never get out of debt
- I don’t know how to read my bank statement
- Money stresses me out too much
- I need courage to do the money work
- I don’t swim in these waters
- Money is so confusing
- I’m financially learning disabled
Do any of these statements ring true for you?
It’s time to release these beliefs. Replace them with positive thoughts that serve you better.
Rather than “I’m not good with numbers,” rephrase that like this: “I’ve learned complicated concepts in my life. I can understand money, too.”
You are smart, intelligent, and successful. I know you have what it takes to transform your relationship with money. Release the money clutter and let the transformation begin.
4. Crush your debt
If you’re not in debt – amazing! Skip to #5.
Unfortunately, debt has become a routine way of managing money for countless numbers of people. Overdraft, bank loans, car loans, student loans and credit card debt lead to immense interest charges for folks each year. The burden of debt causes stress, anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame. Debt ruins lives and destroys marriages.
To get started, use this free worksheet to tally all your debts and the interest rates you’re paying. You need to know where you’re starting from to help you get where you’re going.
Once you have a clear picture of all your debts, you can make a plan to pay them off. Here are two great strategies:
The first strategy is to snowball your debt. That means that you pay the minimums on all your debts except the one with the smallest balance. Throw everything you’ve got at that one until you crush it. Now roll your debt repayments into the next smallest balance and go full steam ahead until you’ve wiped that one out, too. Keep going with this plan until you’re free of debt.
The second strategy is to rank your debt by interest rate. Pay off the one with the highest interest rate first. Once that one has been eliminated, go to the one with the next highest interest rate. As above, keep on keeping on until you’re debt free.
Debt doesn’t have to be your forever story. You owe it to yourself to live a joyous, fulfilling and nourishing life – free of money stress!
5. Set S.M.A.R.T. Money Goals
In case you’re not already familiar with the term, a smart goal is:
- Specific, not vague
- Measurable, helping you measure the progress, stay on track and rejoice when you reach your goal
- Attainable, given where you are now
- Realistic, you can reach it
- Timely, has a deadline
Here’s the difference between a fuzzy goal and a SMART goal:
- I need to get out of debt this year
- I want to save more money this year
- I need to pay down $10,000 of credit card debt by September 1, 2019, and I will call up a financial counselor today to make an appointment.
- I want to invest $10,000 in my retirement account by December 31, 2018. I will make an appointment with my financial planner on Wednesday to see how I can make happen and where I should invest the money.
6. Use Your Calendar and Get Things Done
Put a final deadline for your goal in your calendar. Now break down your annual goal into smaller monthly goals. And then divide those up into weekly baby steps. Schedule weekly check-ins with yourself or with your partner to make sure you’re on track. Join my Facebook Group the Savvy Money Academy and share your goals with us every week. Public accountability significantly increases the likelihood that you’ll achieve your goals.
7. Practice Gratitude
Be grateful for everything good in your life right now – your family, your friends, your health, running water, the flowers and trees, and your computer! Your life is amazingly abundant already! Expressing gratitude helps you feel vibrant and energized. It makes you happier and more satisfied with what you have. Gratitude shows G-d that you’re paying attention to His world and that you’re open to receiving His blessings and grace.
8. Start Where You Are
I know this sounds a little ridiculous. Because where else are you going to start if not where you are right now? I mean, there’s nowhere else to start. But sometimes, the desire to be somewhere else (and the embarrassment of being where we are) prevents us from taking action. It’s kind of like you can’t start your diet until Monday. Or you can’t get a cleaning lady until you clean up the house. There’s a mental block to accepting where you are right now and going forward.
Know deep down that where you are today is exactly where you need to be. Where you are right now is a simple stepping stone on your journey. Just commit to taking the next step.
9. Believe in Yourself
Our money mindset and beliefs about what we are capable of achieving are usually formed in our early childhood.
Because money is a core survival issue, it touches us in a deep and primal place.
Any negative criticism or judgment we received can be (mis)construed as “I’m no good with money” or “I don’t know how to manage money.”
Believe in yourself and your ability to learn new things.
Be open to trying – and making mistakes. Mistakes (a.k.a. failures, ugh!) are simply feedback that you have some more learning to do.
You are capable and confident.
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities!” ~ Norman Vincent Peale
In Hebrew we say “the last and most beloved (point).”
Ask G-d for help.
His door is always open. The Almighty never slumbers nor sleeps.
He never sends you away empty-handed.
Open your heart and your mouth in prayer. Let G-d know that you’re trying your best to transform your relationship with money.
And you need His help, too.
Summing it all up
Are you ready to transform your relationship with money?
Do you know how to set your money goals with intention and to use faith and prayer to achieve them?
I hope these 10 simple steps will get on the right track.
But if you’re stuck and need some support or if you know you’re ready to finally achieve your money goals and you’d like some accountability to make sure you nail it, reach out and schedule a free 30-minute Money Transformation Coaching Call. I would love to see how I can support you.
With blessings for a sweet and prosperous New Year. May you be signed and sealed in the Book of Life.